They know not what they say...

I had a lady meet me in Sams today as I was leaving the bathroom with my 2 little girls say "Man, momma has her hands full! I've been there...and, man do I hope I never have to again!" My first response was to tell her she had NO IDEA, that this was only half of my brood, but I just smiled, looked down & attended to Lilybug.

This isn't the first time someone has said these exact lines to me or to anyone that has more than one child-it's just a response, something to say to make conversation. And I get that. But, does that person actually realize what they are implying when saying that (especially in front of my older kids who are perceptive & understand)?

When you say "I hope I never have to do that again" or "Boy, am I glad to be done with THAT" you are implying several things, mainly that children are a burden not worth bothering your life with. And I'm so sorry that some people think that-I would "burden" my life many, many times over for the joy & blessings children bring-in fact, I thank God daily for all my little "burdens" and hope for more. I don't care that I have to stop in the very middle of my Sams trip to run a toddler to the potty, or that I hardly have 5 minutes to myself or that sometimes (who am I kidding- a lot of times) I feel like I'm losing my mind because I forget everything if it's not written down simply because I have 4 kids that sap my brain power. For payment, I get to hear laughter...lots and lots of laughter and I get to see the world new through a child's eyes, never taking for granted things like bugs and flowers and sunrises and best of all, I get lots of chubby hugs and wet kisses.

So, don't think you are sympathizing with a mom if you feel compelled to say something like that...instead be pro life-tell her how cute her kids are or that they are a blessing...or even something clever like the older gentleman said to me in the parking lot: "What aisle did you find that cutie on? I didn't go down it!"

Now, you'll have to excuse me while I go check on Avacakes...I think I saw her crawling off in a rush with a fly in her mouth.